I've decided there are four stages* of communicating with your spouse when you have children:
Stage 1: You talk often and freely, because your children are so young, they can't understand a thing you're saying anyway.
Stage 2: You talk a little less often, because now your children are in the chattering stage. Sometimes you speak in code: you omit names and you wish your husband was better at reading your lips across the room, but it's hopeless: he cannot do such a thing. (Every time you try, he looks at you like you're speaking Russian.)
Stage 3: You talk, yes- but every third word you spell. So you have to be a good speller for this stage. And you have to be a quick study to be able to decipher which word is being spelled. Also, in this stage, you learn the trick of doing any serious talking while driving in the van: with the music turned up just enough so that your kids in the back can't hear what you're saying.
Stage 4: Talk to your husband?! What is that? Because there are all these other little people talking or interrupting CONSTANTLY. You can't even think, let alone have a conversation.
We're in Stage 4. What stage are you in? (And do let me know if I've missed any stages you happen to be all too familiar with.)
Don't worry. It's not as desperate as it sounds. I'll post soon on how and what we're doing to survive this stage. ;)
*So far. I'm sure there are many glorious stages to come in the years ahead!