(me) Honey, do you realize that I get asked a question every four seconds?
(Mark) Yes. I do. When will you figure out that you should just adopt my strategy, which is just NOT TO ANSWER their questions?
It's kind of true. Sometimes he'll just delay answering and they'll either
a) give up and go away, or
b) figure it out for themselves, or
c) persist, and then he'll answer
I personally don't want to hear the same question (or the persistent, "Mommyyyyy!") four times before I answer. I might literally go crazy. So I just answer right away.
I love them. So much. But all the talking and questions, it's exhausting sometimes.
***
Today Mark had the day off. I had Bible study this morning, and the kids had piano lessons afterward. Mark told me to go to Bible study and then take a break, so I did.
And this is what I did for my break: I lingered after Bible study and visited with the ladies there for about half an hour.
Then I went to a nearby scrapbook store and bought some fun new paper and some washi tape.
Then I went to a cafe and had coffee and lunch and just sat there and journaled.
As I drove from place to place, I was able to listen to the Valentines CD Mark made for me. I was able to listen through an entire song without having to turn down the volume to answer a question or respond to someone chatting with me.
Then I went to a bookstore to pick up the British Country Living magazine, which is my favorite.(About twice a year, I'll splurge and buy one.) But they didn't carry it, so I just browsed. I walked around and jotted down some book titles or authors to check out at the library (because I'm cheap that way).
Then I wandered around another shop that has mainly cards and gift items.
And then I drove to the consignment store and tried on a few things but didn't get anything.
I did all of those things all by myself.
No one asked me a question that entire time.
The quiet was refreshing.
And then I came home.
***
One of the songs Mark put on my CD is a song by Josh Garrels called Bread & Wine. I love that song. This verse is my favorite:
And if I fall, I fall aloneYou really have to hear the song to appreciate it. It reminded me of how grateful I am for Mark. I'm thankful that he's my best friend, that he shares this life with me; that he weaves his heart into mine (another phrase from that song). I am so thankful that we are a threefold cord: God and Mark and me. And that we're strong because of that. I am thankful that we share sorrows and joys. I'm so thankful that God has given me the gift of someone to share it all with. I am married to a fine man, and I love him and I am grateful for him every single day.
But you can help to bear the load
A threefold cord is hard to break
And all I have I give to you
If you will share your sorrow too
Then joy will be the crown upon our heads, my friend
You are far too kind, but thank you. Loving you!
ReplyDeleteI love all of this; the difference between how you and Mark respond to a million kid questions (same at our house), that you enjoyed such a lovely break with no interruptions and that you have Mark! Not everything is easy or pleasant but so so much is a blessing when you have such a one to share it with.
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way about the constant questions. And my husband.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing -- it's always good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way. Sometimes I put my ear buds in and tell my children that I can't hear them, and so I won't be able to respond to them unless they have an emergency.